Inclusion Magazine

Gender Differences: Men want sex and women want to talk.

by Hara Estroff Marano

WHAT BEWILDERS ME, AND MAYBE OTHERS, IS DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN. It seems to me, that most often men’s driving force (conscious or unconscious) is sex but a woman’s driving force is emotional exchange. Women want to receive things like recognition, validation, feeling needed and wanted and of course, to be loved. When do a man’s emotions come into play beyond sexual desire? What makes the crossover from sexual desire to something more?

Sad but true, some men don’t know how to emotionally connect with anyone, including women. Unfortunately, some also were raised according to such a double standard that they can’t countenance sex and affection in the same package. Many men want to emotionally connect with a woman, and to connect with their own children, but it’s also true that many don’t know how to be vulnerable, which is what intimacy demands. They’re often caught in a bind, wanting more emotional depth to their lives but not knowing how to get it because boys are taught from a young age that emotional stuff is girls’ stuff. Truth is, emotional stuff is human being stuff. What’s a poor woman to do?

First and most important— choose the right guy. Someone with whom you establish a conversation and rapport before you jump into bed. And then recognize that men often do express affection through sex. Further, the closeness they feel after sex presents a great opportunity for conversation that contains the “emotional exchange” so satisfying to women (and to men, too). But women sometimes demand too much emotional talk from men. Women need to recognize that men often express affection best through actions (changing a light bulb, fixing the VCR) rather than words.

The Man in the Mirror

by Raynard Jackson

The Church used to be the mirror that society looked into to see it’s reflection. But, now the church has become the reflection that mirrors society. Unfortunately, the church seems to have lost its way and can no longer be counted on to provide light in a dark world. Last month, embattled preacher Eddie Long made an out of court statement of the sexual charges made against him by 4 teenage parishioners. The settlement is reported to have been for $ 15 million (to be split between the four accusers). The accusers were: Anthony Flagg, Maurice Robinson, Jamal Parris and Spencer LeGrande.

The suit accused Long of using his position as pastor of New Birth Missionary Baptist Church to coerce the men into having sexual relationships with him while they were teenage members of his congregation (they were said to have been 17 years old). The acts included massages, masturbation, and oral sex. The age of consent in the state of Georgia is 16. The accusers were all over the age of consent when the acts occurred; therefore law enforcement had no grounds for criminal charges. New Birth is one of the largest churches in the Atlanta area, with a membership estimated to be around 25,000. As to be expected, members are leaving the church in droves, including one of their assistant pastors, Bernice King, youngest daughter of the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

To add salt to the wound, Creflo Dollar has shown his arrogance in his attempted defense of Long (a long time friend). According to Dollar’s sermon from last Sunday (seen on YouTube): “That preacher’s still anointed to do what he was called to. He just had a wreck (the sexual coercion charge)… The blood (of Jesus) will take care of his issue just like it will take care of yours. And I can’t believe that people would leave their preacher because he had a wreck, instead of praying for him. So he had a wreck. You’ve had some wrecks. And I’m thinking, ‘Man, the mercy of God showed on you, but you couldn’t show it to the preacher?… He had a wreck, [but] here’s the good news. He’s got insurance. If you’re from that church that you know I’m talking about, you trying to join here, I don’t want you to join here. You need to go and join where you’re supposed to be.”

Dollar is pastor of World Changers Church in Atlanta. They have an estimated membership of 30,000 people. Long and Dollar are both advocates of the “prosperity gospel”. This is basically a belief in the modern church that God wants everyone to be millionaires. All you have to do is obey preachers like Long and Dollar, give them your money, and God will give you a big house, an expensive car, and any other material possessions you want. They should know. Long drives a Bentley, has a 9 bedroom house, and has a $ 1 million salary. Dollar (what an ironic name) has a $ 3 million house in Atlanta, $ 2.4 million condo in NY, 2 Rolls-Royces, and a private jet. These preachers have basically made God into a personal ATM! According to their theology, if you don’t have material riches, you must be doing something wrong! These mega churches have become the “Wall Street” of religion (as in the movie) where “greed is good.” These preachers depend on “the cult of personality” to expand their empires. People tend to join these churches because of the preacher, not the message that is being preached.

These preachers are nothing but celebrities with robes on. But, when you pull back the robes, most of them are naked—both literally and figuratively. Like in the movie, “The Wiz,” when you go behind the curtain, you find a big ole phony!

I am a graduate of Oral Roberts University, one of the preeminent Christian schools in the country. I have worked around many of the biggest names in the “prosperity theology” movement. These preachers have absolutely no sense of the damage they are doing, not only to the church, but also to people’s lives. Proverbs 14:7 states: “There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof the ways of death.” Dollar’s berating of those who left Long’s church is the epitome of arrogance. They have prostituted the church for their personal gain. The damage these types of preachers have done is incalculable. For every ill we see in society, from politics, business and entertainment, we now see reflected in the church. The church is no longer the mirror, but the reflection. Just look at the man in the mirror!

How To Stop Aging: A Surprising Remedy

By : Carol McMahon

Are you aging unnecessarily?

Answer these questions and find out:

Do you see gray hair as loss of youth (as opposed to loss of pigmentation)? Do you describe how you feel as “young” or “old,” rather than “energetic” or “tired” for instance? Do you see an “age spot” on your hand or face where you once saw a “freckle?”

If you answered “Yes,” take warning! You are aging unnecessarily. The culprit here isn’t passing years. It is thoughts that arise from deeply engrained concepts of “age” and “aging.” Our “age” concept is a set of beliefs and expectations that dictate thoughts and actions. In a sense, we run an age program the way computers run programs. More than half of what we experience as aging is due to this concept. Let me explain the problem, then the solution.

“Gradual Deterioration:” Running The “Age” Program

I once heard a sixty-year old man describe his life as “gradual deterioration.” That was two decades ago. For twenty years he’s run a “gradual deterioration” program. That program is his concept of age. Our concepts decide what we think and do, and even what we see and feel. To see how this works, consider another concept. “I need to lose weight” is the concept dominant in anorexia. This concept defines reality for the anorexic. Where others see thin and emaciated, she sees a body that needs to lose weight. The concept (not reality) is in charge here. In the same way, “age” has us under its spell. The age concept sets us up for gradual deterioration. It determines our thoughts and actions and even what we see in the mirror (“aging” in grey hair; “age spots” in freckles). The concept exerts control unknowingly and automatically, deciding even sensations we feel. Aches and pains taken in stride at eighteen, meet with: “Just as I thought, old age!” Doctors tell us no one dies of old age. Our concept, however, dictates what’s real, and we see otherwise. Some dentists suggest duller yellow teeth for elderly patients. Under the spell of the concept we accept them. “Own up” to age and age owns us, but the problem goes far beyond negative thinking. The program tells us what to do. It tells us: “act your age,” and we obey with grave consequences for health.

“Act Your Age!” Health Damage Caused By The Age Concept

Not long ago a finding that people in their nineties can build muscle made front page news. Why did the finding surprise us? It surprised us because it violates our concept of aging. “Gradual deterioration” sets up expectations of irreversible loss in muscle mass, bone density, lung capacity, balance, flexibility, etc. Obedient to the concept, we “act our age,” sitting sedentary, deteriorating according to plan. Inactivity precipitates decline in a vicious circle, but no matter how limiting and self-destructive, we conform and age to the letter. We succumb more to the concept than to age itself, even though all the while, the concept is mistaken.

The Error In “Aging”

Age as gradual deterioration is a self-fulfilling prophesy. The concept itself however, is mistaken. Ancient wisdom offers a more realistic view. It maintains that disuse, not “age,” is the cause of deterioration. In this view: “that which is used thrives. That which is not used wastes away.”This more enlightened view sets up different expectations. Attribute muscle loss to disuse (instead of age) and the news about building muscle at ninety isn’t news at all. “Gradual deterioration” becomes a matter of “letting yourself go” – something you need not necessarily do. You might trade workouts for sitting helplessly, acting your age. Just knowing a concept is in error however, doesn’t free us from its grip. We can’t expect to snap out of aging any more than the anorexic out of the need to lose weight. Getting free of age takes something more. It requires awareness – more awareness than we’re used to. Here’s how awareness sets you free.

How Awareness Frees You From “Aging”

Spiritual teacher Ram Dass helped an elderly Quaker woman who’d been terminally ill a long while. She told him she wasn’t afraid to die but was bothered by the boredom of slowly dying. He suggested: “Couldn’t you die, say, twenty minutes per hour?” With these words she saw through the concept she was stuck in. In reality, she was living. All the “dying” she’d experienced was born of concept, an invention of the thinking mind. Dying was a program she’d been running. Getting free of the concept was like waking from delusion; coming out from under its spell. In anorexia, aging, and dying we see problems caused by the thinking mind in the absence of awareness. Awareness simple contact with reality sets us free. Contact with reality shuts programs down. Then thoughts and actions emerge, not from preset beliefs and expectations, but from awareness itself. How do you build awareness? The trusted tool is meditation.

Meditation And Liberation From Age

Meditation quiets thinking; concepts lose their solid grip. Present moment awareness replaces toxic thoughts like “I am old.” A burden lifts from shoulders bent by auto-suggestions of aging. The more you quiet thinking the more awareness is restored. With enough awareness you clear your slate completely. Tibetan Buddhist tradition expresses what happens then. Coming to awareness “is like taking a hood off your head. What boundless spaciousness and relief! This is seeing what was not seen before… everything opens, expands, and becomes crisp, clear, brimming with life. All limitations dissolve and fall away.” Go deep enough into awareness and you’ll be free of age limitations. You’ll discover your essence is timeless, ageless and eternal. Then for you, even death holds no threat.

Learn more about freedom from aging in STRAIGHT LINE MEDITATION: HOW TO RESTORE AWARENESS AND WHY YOU NEED TO by Carol E. McMahon, Ph.D.

Top US Official Murdered After Arkansas Weapons Test Causes Mass Death

Posted by EU Times on Jan 4th, 2011

A SHOCKING REPORT PREPARED FOR PRIME MINISTER PUTIN BY THE FOREIGN MILITARY INTELLIGENCE DIRECTORATE (GRU) states that one of the United States top experts in biological and chemical weapons was brutally murdered after he threatened to expose a US Military test of poison gas that killed hundreds of thousands of animals in Arkansas this past week.

According to this report, John P. Wheeler III, Special Assistant to the Secretary of the Air Force, Washington, D.C. from 2005-2008, when he became the Special Assistant to the Acting Assistant Secretary of the Air Force for Installations, Logistics and environment, was found brutally murdered and dumped in a landfill, and as we can read as reported by Fox News: “Delaware Police are investigating the apparent murder of a former Bush official who also championed the fund-raising effort to build the Vietnam Veterans Memorial on the Mall in Washington, D.C. Wheeler’s body was found in Wilmington on Friday.

According to police, somebody initially reported that the body was dumped out of a refuse truck, which would have been coming from Newark, onto the landfill. Newark Police spokesman Lt. Mark Farrall told Fox News that nobody had reported Wheeler missing before he was found.

The Wilmington News Journal reported that Wheeler was last seen riding an Amtrak train from Washington to Wilmington, Del., last Tuesday.” Seen On CNN, NBC, Fox & CBS Chemtrail airplane.

Wheeler’s military career included writing one of the most important manuals on the effectiveness of biological and chemical weapons which led to his being hired in 2009 as a consultant to the Mitre Corporation, whose aviation system development department, the GRU reports, is at the forefront of creating the computer command and control systems used by the US Air Force in their fleet of aerial spraying planes.

These aerial spraying planes, this report continues, are based at the Little Rock Air Force Base in Arkansas that over the past few months have been involved with ‘test dispersants’ of poisonous gasses in the Afghanistan War Theater using chemical weapons stocks obtained from Iraq and held at the Pine Bluff Arsenal, also located in Arkansas.

Important to note about the Pine Bluff Arsenal, which calls itself “America’s Arsenal”, is that it is one of the World’s most specialized munitions and chemical-biological defense products and services bases which Russia had previously accused of not fully reporting the chemical agents removed from Iraq, between 2003 and 2008, and taken to the US for testing and subsequent destruction.

According to this report, the US relocated from Iraq to the Pine Bluff Arsenal an estimated 63,000 metric tonnes of the poisonous gas Phosgene that is described as one of the most feared chemical weapons ever used due to its ability to literally cause the lungs and respiratory system to explode.

Nearly immediately after Russia accused the US this past summer of not fully destroying Iraq’s Phosgene poisonous gas stockpile the Pine Bluff Arsenal began an ‘accelerated’ disposal programme injecting it deep into the ground in central Arkansas, but which, unfortunately, since this past September, has caused over 500 minor earthquakes to occur raising the concerns of their local population.

More frightening, however, is the claim made in this report that the Americans have also begun shipping ‘massive quantities’ of Iraq’s Phosgene poisonous gas stocks to Afghanistan where when used they will be able to say they had nothing to do with it, and believe no one will be able to prove it either.

Important to note about Iraq’s Phosgene poisonous gas stocks are that they are no longer able to be made by any Western country, including the United States, which makes its value as a Weapon of Mass Destruction (WMD) incalculable, especially in a war situation like Afghanistan where the enemy forces are firmlyentrenched in hostile terrain.

To the direct reason for Wheeler’s murder, this report says, was this past week’s transport of Iraqi Phosgene poisonous gas aboard a US Air Force KC-767 tanker aircraft from Little Rock Air Force Base enroute to Afghanistan that shortly after takeoff had a ‘critical malfunction’ of its aerial spraying computer directed command and control system over central Arkansas causing the deaths of thousands of red-wing blackbirds.

According to US reports an estimated 4,000 of these birds were killed outright and were quickly removed by US Environmental Services workers wearing hazmat suits and gas masks. Another US report states that cause of death to these thousands of birds was “trauma in the breast tissue, with blood clots in the body cavity and a lot of internal bleeding” which this GRU report states is consistent with Phosgene exposure.

Even more chilling than this incident is this GRU report stating that it was the second “accidental” release of Phosgene poisonous gas in as many days, as the day before, this same US Air Force KC-767 tanker aircraft also had a “critical malfunction” causing a release over the Arkansas River that killed over 100,000 fish.

Upon Wheeler discovering what was happening with Iraq’s Phosgene poisonous gas stockpiles, this report continues, he traveled from his home in Delaware to Washington D.C. where he openly confronted and threatened to expose the Pentagon and White House Officials responsible. Being a Vietnam Veteran who was responsible for having the famous memorial to that war erected, Wheeler was more than knowledgeable about the United States massive chemical and biological attacks in that conflict and had vowed to not let happen again.

Sadly, but all too common in the United States these days, when Wheeler threatened to go public with what was happening he was targeted for death, and as a “sign” to anyone else thinking of going against the regime, had his body dumped in a garbage pit for all the World to see.

Today, another great American was murdered in an effort to save hiscountry from destruction. Sadly, his death will go barely noticed; the American people seem no longer to care as they continue to seek their solace in their propaganda media lies rather than confronting the brutal truth about the monsters they have let rule over them.

The great American Revolutionary leader Noah Webster once said, “Every child in America should be acquainted with his own country. He should read books that furnish him with ideas that will be useful to him in life and practice. As soon as he opens his lips, he should rehearse the history of his own country.”

Kazell Pugh, President/CEO TLD Springwater

Kazell Pugh, President/CEO TLC Springwater — Kazell Pugh, President/CEO TLD Springwater

KAZELL PUGH WAS BORN AND RAISED IN THE WATTS-WILLOWBROOK NEIGHBORHOOD OF SOUTH CENTRAL LOS ANGELES. He attended a Catholic school through the 8th grade and then went on to Loyola High School, which is an all boys Jesuit college prep school. He won a football scholarship to the University of Colorado at Boulder to study Communications where the Philadelphia Eagles drafted him. Following a brief NFL experience, Kazell enjoyed a successful decade – long career in the Hotel/Hospitality Industry.

With the help of some of his former high school classmates, former NFL star and Amer-I-Can founder, Jim Brown and California Congresswoman, Maxine Waters, Kazell co-owned the “Playground”, a sports apparel store located in South Central Los Angeles. The store was created to help redevelop the neighborhood after the Rodney King riots ravaged the community, educate/employ gang members, and foster sports after school programs for the kids in the neighborhood. The “Playground” was featured on Good Morning America and visited by President Bill Clinton and then Commerce Secretary, Mr. Ron Brown.

In 1994 American Family Insurance hired Kazell as its first Director of Urban Marketing. His re- sponsibilities included emerging market development, Sponsorship events/activities, diversity training for the entire company, niche market advertising, and minority recruiting in all the company operating sales states. Through his efforts, many community organizations received much needed financial support to conduct youtheducation and health and wellness programs.

During his 12-year career with American Fam- ily Insurance, Kazell was promoted to a District Sales Manger and Sales State Director in two different sales states and has been honored with numerous achieve- ment awards for his tireless efforts and work in com- munity service.

Kazell started TLC Springwater in August of 2005, a bottle water company specializing in 3 & 5 gallon btls of spring, purified, and distilled water, sales & rental of water and filtration coolers, private label bottle water, TLC branded water by the case, coffee and supplies. The Company has experienced steady growth each year and plans on expansion in other markets and States. Some of TLC’s customers are the Cleveland Indians, Cuyahoga Community College, University Hospitals, Cleveland Clinic, and Case Western Reserve University. TLC Springwater prides itself on it’s robust “Sustainability” and “Value Adds” initiatives to it’s customers and the community at large.

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The Habit of Positive Thinking

HAVING POSITIVE THOUGHTS CAN HELP YOU REALIZE THINGS THAT ARE IMPOSSIBLE, POSSIBLE. You have to believe to achieve. Here are the seven steps toward living and enjoying life. Be the master of your mind.

Take passionate action towards living your life by design. Talk is inexpensive. Action = deposits in the bank of an enthusiastically authentic future. With- out it, passion is void. This is an ideal example where dreams are made from where you start by fooling around with your mind , then with your hands. And if the idea weakens, you can always return to it later until you finish it.
Commit to yourself as well as those you adore to create strongly a life you can love. Rather than reacting, commit to creating from your heart and soul, out of love rather than fear. The American Dream will be there, but a dream will continue to be a dream without motion and action. Be astonished as the alteration begins.
Recognize and embrace the idea that each moment is perfect irrespective of its outcome. Each time you hit on something which will appear too extreme, why don’t you give it a go and see if it will work. You will be stunned to see of there are more methods to get the task done in time. If you are not happy with the end result, make a decision to use that moment to profit from and make the appropriate shift.
Dwell totally in a spot of gratitude. Learn to exploit what you have in your hands and use it in the most helpful way. Sliding into neediness will become less of a habit when you frequently shift towards appreciation, away from misery consciousness.
Utilize a Passion Formula of recognize / Reevaluate / revive in the place of the “Shoulda / Woulda / Coulda” whirlwind. The former is based in increased knowledge and abundance while the second concentrates on deficiency and lack. As you are facing people or jobs that may appear harder than scal- ing the summit of the Himalayas, allow yourself to realize that the task is of similar importance as giving out orders to your subordi- nates. You would rather be sumptuously passionate!
Keep humor at the vanguard of thought , laughing at and with yourself when possible. Life has so much to offer to permit you to mope around in self pity. Humor is terribly enticing, extremely keen: life-giving.
Believe you’re the designer of your destiny. Nobody can take your passionate future from you apart from you! Create your life convincingly. So long as there’s still breath in your body, there’s no end to how much you can do in a life-time. The idea of thinking enormous is all about enjoying your work, which would lead to celebrate a discovery that is born within your hands. Watch everything flow into place with ideal, passionate precision.

It’s engaging how folk get wallowed up by something trivial as learning how to use a PC, when nowadays that top PC firms are manufacturing software that even the children can do it. I do not mean to be condescending, but that is the concept of not having any positive thinking in your life-you’ll just end up as a dim bulb in a dark corner. So instead of subjecting yourself to what you’ll be condemned for, make your path by taking the 1st step with a positive disposition.